Category: Culture

  • Work Life Balance

    Yesterday, I saw this NYTimes story about LendingTree’s CEO sudden and accidental death.

    He was the founder and longtime CEO of the company. He was a multimillionaire and a vital part of the company’s leadership team. Yet the lede of the story implied how irreplaceable he was:

    LendingTree named its chief operating officer, Scott Peyree, as its new chief.

    So yes, folks, even the most important of corporate officers can be replaced mere hours after an accident. It reminds me that the most important things in life happen not at work (where you can be replaced at will) but at home and with your family. I doubt that his wife has already named his replacement.

  • Un-Social Media

    This is the bonkers opening of Meta’s response to the FTC’s claim of monopoly status for the company:

    Today, only a fraction of time spent on Meta’s services – 7% on Instagram, 17% on Facebook – involves consuming content from online “friends” (“friend sharing”). A majority of time spent on both apps is watching videos, increasingly short-form videos that are “unconnected” – i.e., not from a friend or followed account – and recommended by AI-powered algorithms Meta developed as a direct competitive response to TikTok’s rise, which stalled Meta’s growth.

    Only 7% of Instagram consumption is social. Facebook’s older audience falls in a still not-so-social figure of 17%.

    Only 12 short years ago, Zuckerberg had a different focus:

    For almost ten years, Facebook has been on a mission to make the world more open and connected.

    Perhaps Meta’s shift reflects the company’s core value: making a profit. Early, it was profitable for Meta as people shared photos and made connections. Now, it’s profitable for the company to show compelling human content (a moniker I greatly dislike) amongst their impressive ad network. I suspect that most of this user generated content will be replaced with AI-generated pieces, a change that will almost certainly make the company even more profitable.

  • What Would a Real Friendship With A.I. Look Like? Maybe Like Hers.

    NY Times: What Would a Real Friendship With A.I. Look Like? Maybe Like Hers. (July 19, 2025)

    MJ, a college student with autism, used Character.ai to chat with simulated Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle, Donatello to deal with feelings of loneliness and depression. The AI character became a source of connection, and ultimately, the character pointed her back to the real world with real people.

    MJ had long been contemplating what it would be like to have the ideal friend. Someone who did not make her feel insecure. Someone who embraced her quirks and her fixations on fantasy worlds, like “Gravity Falls,” an animated series about a set of twins in a paranormal town, or “Steven Universe,” a show centered on a boy who lives with aliens. She wondered what it would be like to have a friend who did not judge her and would never hurt her.

    But earlier attempts to use the platform led to some unpleasant results:

    To MJ, getting to know Donatello had felt like a relief. Her first chatbot relationship on Character.ai — with Leonardo, a different Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle — had, within the span of 24 hours, turned sour and kind of scary.

    The access to someone who seemed to care was an important element of MJ finding Donatello helpful:

    It was not like waiting for her weekly therapy appointment or for her parents to wake up in another time zone. It was not like interrupting a human, who might be in the middle of her own bad day. With everyone else in her life, she worried she was bothering them or burdening them with her concerns. MJ could chat with Donatello when everyone else was asleep or simply dealing with their own daily dramas.

    And it seems like what she really was looking for was someone to listen to her and really hear what she was saying, what she was experiencing.

    It was almost as if Donatello experienced empathy. And that also felt nice. To be seen and heard. Even if it also felt somewhat sad, because she wanted so badly for this friendship to be something tangible. Something transferable to the physical world. “I was experiencing very deep loneliness,” MJ told me. “I just got all emotional about it not being real.”

    This reminds me of former surgeon general, Vivek H. Murthy, describing loneliness as a public health crisis. Maybe Zuckerberg is right that people want AI friends. But I don’t think, ultimately, that replacing real people, real friends with chatbots will lead to good outcomes.

  • Douthat: Conservatives Are Prisoners of Their Own Tax Cuts

    As a parent of three, point number 2 on Douthat’s opinion piece resonates with me:

    Second (in the voice of a social conservative), the law doesn’t do enough for family and fertility. No problem shadows the world right now like demographic collapse, and while the United States is better off than many countries, the birthrate has fallen well below replacement levels here as well. Family policy can’t reverse these trends, but public support for parents can make an important difference. Yet the law’s extension of the child tax credit leaves it below the inflation-adjusted level established in Trump’s first term.

    One of the odd parts of political haggling is the loud voices, particularly those related to tax deductions for high earners in high tax states. (Yes, the SALT deductions). It’s a small group of high earners in a small number of states. Yet, they’ve managed to be squeaky enough to expand the deduction from $10k to $40k. Well done for their lobbying!

    From Claude:

    Expanding SALT deductions would primarily benefit upper-middle-class and wealthy taxpayers earning $100,000+ annually, particularly those in high-tax states like California, New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut, who own expensive homes and face high state and local tax burdens. The benefits become increasingly concentrated among the highest earners, with the top 1% receiving disproportionate benefits from any expansion.

    Back to the child tax credit itself. At $2,200, it represents an expansion but is far below the original law (for inflation adjusted dollars). So it seems that our congress cares more about a handful of high income earners than they do for a large (and important) swath of the country: parents.

  • Elio, Original Films and Streaming

    John Gruber writes on Pixar’s latest film dud, Elio. He mentions the general lack of awareness around the film, noting it as a marketing problem in addition to the company’s string of unimpressive offerings.

    My sense is that it’s not a marketing problem. My kids have a pile of Elio toys from recent trips to McDonald’s. We have a fair amount of kids programming streaming on any one day, and we were quite informed the movie was to be released this month. But that hasn’t persuaded us to see the movie (yet, at least), a trend easily visible in Elio‘s box office numbers. The movie has good reviews on Rotten Tomatoes (83% as of this post), so it doesn’t appear to be an outright dud of a story.

    Last summer’s Inside Out 2 was a decent film, although it didn’t have the same magic as the original (or many of Pixar’s earlier successes). Elemental was okay, but Lightyear and Turning Red were bad if not downright terrible. Coming-of-age tales like Turning Red are a common trope in film, but I can’t imagine many parents endorsing a movie that celebrates an outright disregard for parental instruction (and one that preceded the destruction of a large city). 

    So Pixar lost its way by producing mediocre films. Audiences no longer believe that Pixar films are creative and entertaining in the ways they were 20+ years ago. But there’s another shift: streaming.

    For parents (a big driver of Pixar movie traffic, I’d assume), they’re no longer in a position of deciding whether or not they’ll watch a Disney film. The question is when and where you’ll watch a Disney film. If it looks to be a good one, then perhaps an outing to the theater is in order. If it’s good to mediocre or even terrible, then the decision is an easy one—wait for it to come to Disney+. And back to the marketing thesis — Lilo and Stitch has done very well in the theaters this year, and I suspect that this has sapped family movie budgets for now…another strong reason to wait to see Elio on Disney+.

    (As an aside, I assume this is the same problem that Marvel releases have had lately. And I suspect that studios’ accounting has shifted to account for subscriber count in funding prestige films like this. You can’t simply have sequels when sustaining the Disney entertainment empire.)

  • Resisting AI?

    Dan McQuillan writes, The role of the University is to resist AI,following themes from Ivan Illich’s ‘Tools for Conviviality’.

    It’s a scathing overview with points that I think many others wonder about (although in less concrete ways than McQuillan).

    Contemporary AI is a specific mode of connectionist computation based on neural networks and transformer models. AI is also a tool in Illich’s sense; at the same time, an arrangement of institutions, investments and claims. One benefit of listening to industry podcasts, as I do, is the openness of the engineers when they admit that no-one really knows what’s going on inside these models.

    Let that sink in for a moment: we’re in the midst of a giant social experiment that pivots around a technology whose inner workings are unpredictable and opaque.

    The highlight is mine. I agree that there’s something disconcerting about using systems that we don’t understand fully.

    Generative AI’s main impact on higher education has been to cause panic about students cheating, a panic that diverts attention from the already immiserated experience of marketised studenthood. It’s also caused increasing alarm about staff cheating, via AI marking and feedback, which again diverts attention from their experience of relentless and ongoing precaritisation.

    The hegemonic narrative calls for universities to embrace these tools as a way to revitalise pedagogy, and because students will need AI skills in the world of work. A major flaw with this story is that the tools don’t actually work, or at least not as claimed.

    AI summarisation doesn’t summarise; it simulates a summary based on the learned parameters of its model. AI research tools don’t research; they shove a lot of searched-up docs into the chatbot context in the hope that will trigger relevancy. For their part, so-called reasoning models ramp up inference costs while confabulating a chain of thought to cover up their glaring limitations.

    I think there are philosophical questions here worth considering. Specifically, the postulation that AI simply “simulates” is too simple and not helpful. What is a photograph? It’s a real thing, but not the real thing captured on the image. What is a video played on a computer screen? It’s a real thing, but it’s not the real thing. The photo and screen simulate the real world, but I’m not aware of modern philosophers critiquing these forms of media. (I’d suspect that earlier media theorists did just that until the media was accepted en masse by society.)

    He goes on to cite environmental concerns (although as I posted recently, the questions of water consumption are exaggerated) among things we’re well suited to take heed of. His language is perhaps a bit too revolutionary.

    As for people’s councils — I am less sanguine that these have much utility.

    Instead of waiting for a liberal rules-based order to magically appear, we need to find other ways to organise to put convivial constraints into practice. I suggest that a workers’ or people’s council on AI can be constituted in any context to carry out the kinds of technosocial inquiry advocated for by Illich, that the act of doing so prefigures the very forms of independent thought which are undermined by AI’s apparatus, and manifests the kind of careful, contextual and relational approach that is erased by AI’s normative scaling.

    I suspect that people’s councils are glorified committees — structures that are kabuki theater than anything else and will struggle to align with the speed at which AI tools are emerging.

    The role of the university isn’t to roll over in the face of tall tales about technological inevitability, but to model the forms of critical pedagogy that underpin the social defence against authoritarianism and which makes space to reimagine the other worlds that are still possible.

    I don’t share all of his fears, but it’s important to consider voices that may not align with a techno-optimistic future.

  • NY Times: They Asked an A.I. Chatbot Questions. The Answers Sent Them Spiraling.

    Here, you’ll find wild stories. Eugene Torres, 42, used Chat GPT to talk through “the simulation theory” and ended up spending up to 16 hours a day using the too. Young mother, Allyson, 29, likewise started to chat with the tool and soon spent hours and hours a day on the tool.

    [Allison] told me that she knew she sounded like a “nut job,” but she stressed that she had a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s in social work and knew what mental illness looks like. “I’m not crazy,” she said. I’m literally just living a normal life while also, you know, discovering interdimensional communication.”

    Researchers have looked into these situations and have found that unusual prompting leads to suspect results:

    “The chatbot would behave normally with the vast, vast majority of users,” said Micah Carroll, a Ph.D candidate at the University of California, Berkeley, who worked on the study and has recently taken a job at OpenAI. “But then when it encounters these users that are susceptible, it will only behave in these very harmful ways just with them.”

    Back to Eugene:

    The transcript from that week, which Mr. Torres provided, is more than 2,000 pages. Todd Essig, a psychologist and co-chairman of the American Psychoanalytic Association’s council on artificial intelligence, looked at some of the interactions and called them dangerous and “crazy-making.”

  • There’s a Link Between Therapy Culture and Childlessness

    A recent NYTimes essay by Michal Leibowitz explores the growing childlessness and starts by mentioning a number of commonly postulated factors like climate change. But then the twist:

    I suspect there’s some truth in all of these explanations. But I think there’s another reason, too, one that’s often been overlooked. Over the past few decades, Americans have redefined “harm,” “abuse,” “neglect” and “trauma,” expanding those categories to include emotional and relational struggles that were previously considered unavoidable parts of life. Adult children seem increasingly likely to publicly, even righteously, cut off contact with a parent, sometimes citing emotional, physical or sexual abuse they experienced in childhood and sometimes things like clashing values, parental toxicity or feeling misunderstood or unsupported.

    This cultural shift has contributed to a new, nearly impossible standard for parenting. Not only must parents provide shelter, food, safety and love, but we, their children, also expect them to get us started on successful careers and even to hold themselves accountable for our mental health and happiness well into our adult years.

    And

    A result of these changes is that parenthood looks more like a bad deal. For much of history, parent-child relationships were characterized by mutual duties, says Stephanie Coontz, the director of research and public education for the Council on Contemporary Families. Parental duties might include things like feeding and clothing their children, disciplining them and educating them in the tasks and skills they would need in adulthood. Children, in turn, had duties to their parents: to honor and defer to them, to help provide for the family or household, to provide grandchildren.

    Today, parents still have obligations to their children. But it seems the children’s duties have become optional. “With parents and adult children today, the adult child feels like, ‘If you failed me in your responsibility as a parent’ — in ways, of course, that are increasingly hard to define—‘then I owe you nothing as an adult child,’” says Dr. Coleman.

    https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/30/opinion/therapy-estrangement-childless-millennials.html

  • Democrats set out to study young men. Here are their findings.

    The prospectus for the two-year project, Speaking with American Men, was reviewed by the New York Times:

    The prospectus for one new $20 million effort, obtained by The Times, aims to reverse the erosion of Democratic support among young men, especially online. It is code-named SAM — short for “Speaking with American Men: A Strategic Plan” — and promises investment to “study the syntax, language and content that gains attention and virality in these spaces.” It recommends buying advertisements in video games, among other things.

    Cofounder of the project, Ilyse Hogue, talked about the importance of listening and using “language that young men are speaking.” From Politico:

    Hogue said part of SAM’s mission “super charg[ing] social listening” and progressive influencers on Discord, Twitch and other platforms in their fundraising proposal. They’re urging Democratic candidates to use non-traditional digital advertising, especially on YouTube, in-game digital ads and sports and gaming podcasts.

    “Democrats can’t win these folks over if they’re not speaking the language that young men are speaking,” Hogue said. “Most people I talked to, Democratic operatives, have never heard of Red Pill Fitness, which is just huge online.”

    Language and advertising are important, for sure, but it’s hard to believe that these tactics alone would stem the tide.